Book Reviews

Back Roads to Belonging: Unexpected Paths to Finding Your Place and Your People by Kristen Strong

My edition: Kindle Owned
Pages: 209
Stand Alone
Genre: Self help, Christian
Publish: August 6th, 2019
Rating: 5 stars


At one time or another, shifting seasons in family, friendships, employment, and communities will bring each of us face-to-face with the feeling of being on the outside looking in. Because we are made for connection, this will often lead us down one of two roads. Either we will hop on the popular but crowded highway that asks us to do whatever it takes to get noticed, or we’ll stand still, paralyzed by the fear that we’re not important, loveable, or worth other people’s time and attention.

But what if there is another way? With an understanding voice that will speak into your own circumstances, Kristen Strong walks beside you along the less traveled but more satisfying third way–the back road way–to belonging: remaining in Christ and relaxing into the unique role God has for you. Along the way, you will learn simple, doable actions that not only will help you feel and know that you belong but will welcome others in as well.


I joined a book club that was started by a person I follow on Instagram. This is the first book that is being read. (You can find the book club on Facebook. Flourishing Book Club)

Growing up and well to be honest still to this day, I have a feeling of not belonging. I have always felt that people tolerate me rather than actually try to get to know me. I’m still surprised I have Wy and he’s stayed this long.

I have always believed in God but I haven’t had the best relationship with Him. I’m striving to fix that, which brings me to this book club. It’s for women who can come together and read and pray as one.

I don’t think I have ever had so many highlights in a book before. Strong hit on topics I battle through constantly. I always have felt like people just tolerate me and I don’t really belong. Strong helped me open my eyes that I do belong and I should let discouraging words bring me down.

Here are some of my favorite quotes:

For those struggling to fit in, our very specific and creative God asks us to abandon the loud boulevard of attention-demanding behaviors for the byways of remaining in Christ and relaxing into the unique role he has for each of us.

At the heart of the matter, we fear we don’t belong because something is intrinsically wrong with us. We’re too this or not enough that to find our place where we’re welcomed as we are for who we are.

Yes, you belong. Yes, you belong. Yes, you belong.

So, if something doesn’t fit within our communities, it’s more likely either it isn’t supposed to or it doesn’t fit yet.

Because God didn’t abandon Job, and he won’t abandon us either.